You don't have to transcend
anything. You have to live everything that is natural to you, and live
it fully, without any inhibition -- joyously, aesthetically. Just by living
it deeply, a transcendence will come. You are not to transcend anything.
Remember my words. A transcendence will come by itself, and when it comes
by itself it is such a release and such a freedom. If you try to transcend,
you are going to repress, and repression is the sole reason why people
cannot transcend; so you are getting into a vicious circle. You want to
transcend, so you repress, and because you repress you cannot transcend,
so you repress more. As you repress more, you become more incapable of
Live it out fully, without any condemnation, without any religion interfering
with your life. Live it out naturally, intensely, totally -- and a transcendence
comes. It is not your doing, it is a happening. And when it comes by itself,
there is no repression, there is no antagonism. You are above all those
things that you wanted to transcend -- for example, sex. But a real transcendence
does not mean that you cannot make love. Of course your love will have
a totally different quality. It will not be sexual, it will not be a biological
urge, it will not be animalistic; it will be simply a play between two
If transcendence comes by itself, then many things, more or less, disappear.
But anything that disappears -- you are not against it. You can still
enjoy it. For example, in a state of transcendence you are not a food
addict, but that does not mean that you cannot enjoy, once in a while,
going to a Chinese restaurant. Transcendence makes you free; it does not
give you a new bondage: first you were so addicted that you had to go,
now you are so addicted that you cannot go. Transcendence means that now
all this addiction is gone -- you can go, you may not go. You are neither
against nor for. You may be smoking.
Transcendence does not mean that once in a while with friends you cannot
smoke a cigarette. I don't think that a cigarette, once in a while, will
destroy your spirituality. And if it destroys it, then that spirituality
is not worthwhile. I cannot smoke -- not because of transcendence but
because of my breathing trouble. I have no antagonism against poor cigarettes;
it is just the smell of tobacco I cannot tolerate, the smoke I cannot
inhale. But that is a problem with my body; it is my allergy. But when
I see somebody smoking I don't feel that this man is condemned forever,
is going to fall into hellfire. No condemnation arises in me, because
what he is doing is simply playing a game. Being alone, finding nothing
else to do and being told continually by the parents and the society that
it is better to do something rather than nothing... so the poor man is
doing something rather than nothing. He is at least smoking. Transcendence
is a very childlike state.
My grandfather used to smoke cigars and cheroots, and he would send me
to get his cigar and lighter. And rather than bringing both, I would take
the cigar in my mouth and light it and bring it to him. He said, "This
is not right. I had asked you to bring the cigar and the lighter." I said,
"When I can bring one, which does the work for both... I am not stupid."
He said, "That I know. But remember, don't learn this habit." I said,
"Don't be worried. Seeing you cough continually the whole night, it is
enough. I don't have to go through the experience to learn it. I learn
from others' experience too."
His doctors were saying to him, "Drop these cigars." But it was impossible
for him... a whole life's addiction. He was ready to suffer -- to cough
and not to sleep well. I said, "Seeing you is enough prevention for me,
and just that one puff that I take when I light your cigar brings tears
to my eyes. It is enough just to experience what kind of enjoyment you
must be having." The people you know as saints are not childlike. They
are addicted as much as others; their addictions have just become reversed.
Somebody is addicted to sex -- they are addicted to no-sex. Somebody is
addicted to smoking -- they are addicted to no-smoking. Transcendence
is a state of no-addiction... just a childlike playfulness.
There is no sin in sex. Just living it intensely, by and by you transcend,
just the way you transcend playing tennis. One day you throw away the
whole thing, "Enough is enough!" You transcend football, you transcend
all kinds of things, and nobody calls you a saint. To me transcendence
comes out of your experience. You see the futility of something and the
addiction drops. Then once in a while, just for a change, if you want
to smoke I don't see any harm; if you want to make love I don't see any
harm. The harm is in the addiction -- the harm is not in the act. And
transcendence is not concerned with the act; transcendence is concerned
with the addiction. And to be completely unaddicted gives an immense freedom.